“You must be a hell of a thief because you stole my heart from across the room.” Ever used such pickup lines before? Do you have success with it? You know that cheesy pickup like this may or may not work. But you definitely do not wish it to fall under the category of things that women hate.

Most men tend to strike out with the women within the few opening minutes of a conversation.  They don’t even realize it, and they have made mistakes that caused a lack of attraction developing in them.  So here is the top 4 things women hate, I have compiled this list after asking a million women.  Err, no I mean, I hope to meet a million women. But don’t worry, I really ask a whole bunch of them. So you may have heard of these before, but it’s the moment for you to stop doing them!

You must be a hell of a thief because you stole my heart from across the room.”

Slip-Up #1: Buying a Girl Drinks Too Early

Strike up line like, my mom told me that I must buy a drink for a hot girl before I can go back home does not really work nowadays right. Why not? There are a number of reasons. Most nice girls find it weird and awkward when a stranger walks up to them and offers to buy them a drink. Some women may even find it offensive as though it look down on them. Most of them will also be cautious with some many type of party drugs out there. And if those women who accepts your drinks gladly are usually those that are just concerned about the “free” drinks and will never really become attracted to you.

So when the best opportunity to buy a girl drinks? Choosing the correct timing can positioned yourself as nice and being gentlemanly. It can also be attractive and generous. So if you going to buy a girl drinks, do it only after you have developed a rapport with her first. Offer it to her in a way that seems like you are getting a drink yourself and checking with her if she wants one too. Invite her to the bar with you, and if she agree, you can take this as an signal of interest and by leading her there, you are actively demonstrating the sense of leadership skills- something she will be subconsciously attracted to.

So avoid buying a girl a drink too early so as she will not feel that you need to spend money in order to buy her attention. It will turn off her and reduce your chances of her becoming attracted to you.
Learn creative ways of starting the conversations first, slowly building rapport and insert humours before offer to buy the drinks for her is far better than just going straight for the kill.

Slip-Up #2: You Complement Her Too Much

Many guys tend to constantly trying to please and complementing a hot girl too soon. Compliment to hot girls is like snapping their fingers, they can get the anytime and easily. So it totally not new to them, instead you’re boosting her self-esteem and make her lost interest in you. You do not want to make raise her stake. Yes, compliments are pleasing to the ear but over doing it, may seem too fake. Even normal girls when received more compliment than usual does not know how to naturally accept them and may become self conscious, leading them wary of you. Over complimenting a girl revealed that you see her as a prize worth pursuing. Doing it too early and obviously demonstrate to her that you are not a challenge and she will feel you are nothing special.
If you are going to give a girl a compliment, make it mean something. Make it be the only one for the night. And if she is really hot, she is used to getting compliments about her looks.Be different and comment about something subtle that you notice about her, like how you enjoyed talking to her and how she seems really fun. Try to look beyond her looks, and she will have feel puzzled on why you are not complementing her what other guys are saying. She will have a different opinion of you and treat you more seriously. She will also feel much better as you are not only concerned about the look and being superficial.

Slip-Up #3: She Knows What You Want To Say

The girl does not need to be psychic or fortune teller to be able to predict what you’re going to say. In fact, what you are going to say is the same every time round. Some predictability in conversation is fine, as eventually you will have to find out her name,what she does, her hobbies and so on etc…

But you don’t want the whole conversation to be too predictable. You do not want her to read you like a storybook
Attractive women get approach most of the time in their live, be in the club or just social gathering and they are used to conversation like, “Hi how are you? What’s your name? Nice to meet you, so what do you do for a living? Oh that cools etc…”

These types of routine conversation make you tend to run out of things to say pretty quickly not mentioning your have shown you are very similar to every other guy that approached her. You’re not unique and worse dull and boring. You can actively demonstrate that you are not exactly the same as other guy by starting your conversation with either a controversial topics like “Hey, can you do me a favour, my friend and I were just discussing about this topic and we really need a female opinion on the …”

Go straight in the conversation before you slowly introduce yourself and ask for her personal details. Women love to give their opinions and this really get the conversation going and this also give you a legitimate reason to approach them. You can choose to open the conversation like example,

“The hairstyle of that guy is really cool, but my friend think it completely ugly. I guess not many people appreciate art right, what do you think?”

“My friend has been going out with his girlfriend for 6 months, and he’s thinking of getting a turtle for her as a pet, but I think it not suitable”

“We were just discussing that what kind of guy attract women most, , some of us think humorous is the most popular  , but other think it the facial appearance matter first, what do you think?

As you can see, there are a lot of different opinion openers that you can use and think of. I just thought those up off the top of my head.You just need to different from the rest and by doing that you are actively demonstrating you’re not a “Hi, how are you?”-kind-of-guy. You are showing that you are so comfortable with yourself and with people that you can ask go up to someone and ask a question and feel you have the right to.

Just bear in mind that you will have to be the one guiding the conversation. You can always switch topic instantly and follow up with a question. Engaged her and listen to her response. Waiting for her to volunteer her name and asks for yours is an indicator that she is interest in you or may like you. But be careful, too much questions in a short time is equal to boring and she may not be able to handle that. Follow up her answer with a story that relates to you she has told you.  Look out for signs of her interest in you, and you can be optimistic that you are well on the correct route.

Slip-Up #4: You Are Too Much Of a Nice Guy

You would have seen your attractive female friend dating jerks and but some reason they were never be interested in you Women usually don’t base their choices on how nice a guy is. They choose because they feel a certain strong level of attraction for them. And when being nice does not make a woman feel that strong level of attraction and doe no make her choose you.

Basically nice guy will try to remove all the conflict, all the tension from their interactions with women, constantly pleases her, inject control and power into her because they believe by doing so, woman will like them. But the cruel facts are that woman love this certain tension which is called the sexual tension. And if you could create that tension, women will get attracted to you. Be it by a seductive sneer, or a suggestive comment that get’s the gears in the women brain stirring. When you can create that tension, you will have to leave that nice guy category.