This week is pick-up week and I will present articles all about pickup and related information about it. I’ve decided to dedicate this week as “Pick Up Week” mainly due to two reasons. Firstly I’ve break my personal record of successfully picking up a hundred women this week and secondly I wished to share the secrets with kind people like you who deserves the women more than me. So let us embrace each other and enjoyed this wonderful week!

Generally men will agree that approaching a woman may probably be one of the most stressful situations they can find themselves in. Why? Lack of confidence, nervousness and shyness are some of the many reasons that contribute to the stress. But the main reason they find it so difficult is the fear of rejection. This fear is so strong that it causes men to behave in very abnormal ways, such as stammering like never before or displaying a completely irrational behaviour.

How many times your friend has told you that he felt that the gorgeous lady across the pub is interested in him. And when you tell your friend to go talk to her, he insisted on having a couple of drinks to boost confidence and increase his courage before approaching his target.  However, an hour later, your friend is still at the bar looking her way, and the next moment, he dead drunk after all the booze and you have to carry him all the way back. Sadly your friend had to spend another lonely night with his hand! Even though the lady was giving your friend all the right signals and her body language was definitely inviting, your friend just don’t know how to approach her.

The Mindset Homework
We’ve to tune our mind and understand the dating game. Even you are some Hollywood superstars; you will be rejected at some point. Even a pickup specialist has his disappointment too.No one can please everyone even you try very hard. Different women like different type of men. The secret is to adjust your mindset not take rejection personally.

Fear of rejection cannot prevent you from approaching a woman. The conversion ratio for me is about 40%, which means that for every 10 women I meet, about seven will reject me and three will speak to me. 40% maybe quite a low success rate, but it sure beats zero percent right, meaning that you don’t approach any women at all. But if you calculate, that approximately thousand of women that I had to approach to hit the hundred mark. So you’ve guessed it: quantity is the key here.

Rejection is not easy to swallow, particularly for men; we just have that ego right. But there are a couple of steps you can take before approaching a woman to measure the probability of you success.Most men who actually pick up the courage to approach women do it impetuously and without any observation. You may want to acknowledge their courage but this means that their conversion ratio will be very low, which is certainly bad for the ego. So before approaching a woman, there are some key factors that should be observed.

Reading Her Body Language
Before you make any approach, you would like to observe her body language to see if she is interested in you. If she makes frequent eye contact, smiles a lot with you, plays with her hair, and fidgets with her clothes or her jewellery, you can be pretty assured that she’s not going to reject you outright.

Flirting With Her
Flirting is an excellent way to verify what her body language is telling you. Have heard of the saying, that women are born flirtatious being? Flirting is one of the ways women discover what you’ll be like as a lover. Flirting with a woman creates opportunities which give you a chance to have fun with her and build up the nerve to ask her out on a date. It can also help you find out how responsive she will be to you.

Since women are also emotion being, your objective in flirting is to make her feel good and happy so that she associates you with the “happy and wonderful” feelings she enjoyed. This is known as “anchoring,” in which stimulus is connected to a certain emotion. In this case, you are the stimulus and the feeling is happiness.

Start out by making eye contact and smiling in a relaxing composure. Approached her in a fun or humorous way, this will help her feel comfortable around you. She will eventually dissolve her shield. After introducing yourself, added on to flirt with the stranger by making imaginative misinterpretations in a complimentary manner.

Example, that you find the salesgirl at boutique really sexy and you want to ask her out. Instead of asking her out in a straightforward manner and risking rejection, you can flirt with her by saying, “Am I dreaming, I can’t believe to have an angel from heaven serving me herself.”

She’ll probably laugh (observe her body language), and then you can finish with, “I’m so impressed with your assistance that I have to find a way to repay you. How about drinks on Wednesday?” Then wait for her answer. It’s not guaranteed that she’ll accept your offer, but your chances are a lot better. If she does reject you, you probably won’t feel as bad because it was all a fun flirting game.

Flirting can also be use as a screening process which can help get to know her and decide whether or not you want her or are she suitable for you and into the game.

What’s Next?
So you found the woman you wanted to talk to. You noticed her body language and she definitely seemed interested. You flirted with her and she was very receptive. There is still a possibility that she might reject you, but you don’t care!  It’s part and parcel of the game and you won’t take it personally.

Now how do you do it? How do you approach her, develop an interesting conversation and eventually ask her out on a date? Stay tune here at Lovebirds for more on Lovebirds PICK UP WEEK!