Who say picking up is only made for the guy game? In fact, nowadays most women will take the initiative if you’re the perfect candidate for them. It’s doesn’t matter who make the first move but rather on who actually holds the upper hand. But wouldn’t it be easier and less embarrassing if women were the ones who were out to pick up guys?

How great will it be, if men could just enjoyed the fruits of their labor without hard work? Instead of always becoming the hunter, sometimes to be hunted isn’t really that bad. The reality is that women could be the hunters too. You’ve probably been picked up before without actually realizing it. Why? Because women were intelligence enough to reverse it and let you feel you were the aggressor all along. Nobody likes to be rejected even for women. Though times have changed, for a woman to take the risk is much more difficult.

If you want a woman to make that first move, you have to lower her risk hurdle as much as possible. Let’s share some pointers to stack the deck in your favour so that the queen across the crowded bar always ends at your stool and perhaps at her bed some morning soon.

Clear Your Runway For Her Approach
Don’t you too find it intimidating when you are about to approach a team of attractive women. Even armed with the best slimy tongue, sometimes it maybe too much to handle at one go. No woman is going to try to drag you out of an engrossed conversation you’re having with a dozen friends about the intricacies of the football team. No matter how interested she is with you, it just too intimidating to do it.

If you don’t want to go home alone, you need to create gaps for a potential partner to approach. Gracefully leave the conversation, rotate your body away from the group, and spend some time looking for people who might be looking at you. And if you’re waiting for the gang to show up, make the most of your time alone. Don’t just sit hunched over your drink. Gaze around, smile and nod at various people, projecting you’re a friendly person, and therefore not likely to put anyone down.

Practice the Perfect Impression
Returning impression is important. So when you noticed her looking at you, encourage her with a come-get-me gaze. Practice yourself in the mirror. Do you look like a friendly, intelligent man, or like someone who’s just plain clueless. Eye contact works best if it’s held for a discreet amount of time, slowly break it by looking down shyly, and finally re-established contact again.

Smiles are equally influential in confirming your interest when you’re trying to illuminate your greeting sign. It’s not easy. You’ve to be approachable and gentle, yet you must also show the influence and status that women are attracted to. How to do it? To achieve such complex aura with a smile isn’t as hard as you might presume. Using the ‘super smile’ signals by drawing your lips fully back to reveal both rows of teeth is an unquestionable displayed of interest in the opposite sex. Your body posture is another indicator, soften your posture and avoid sign of arrogance and unfriendliness like holding your head too far back or folding your arms over your chest.

Stay Touchable And Physical
Women are a sensual being and they are more likely to touch you if your wear linen, leather or cashmere. So it’s wise to invest in clothing made of quality fabrics. While men respond visually, women respond to tactile value. A lot of women are kinesthetic, and communicate and respond intensely to touch. Also, quality fabrics show fine taste and financial security, two other things women are always attracted to. Apply the art of kinaesthetic by occasional having slight body contact with her will also make her more comfortable and friendly with you.

Appreciate Her Courage
It’s never easy to take the first move, you knew it. When she appears to be shy and uncomfortable, compliment her boldness by saying, “I’m so thankful you came over; I was just picking up the courage to introduce myself to you.” However, if she seems confident in her appearance say something like, “It’s amazing you managed to get over here with so many guys checking you out.”

Identify Her Signals
Sometimes, even she may have decided that you’re the one but may not be willing to risk that long walk across the bar. So she flashes the tell-tales signals to you. Most women always complain that men don’t get their signals. So you should be conscientious and scout for these clues like, glancing you using her side of the eye, smoothing the hair, and lip licking.

But be patient, look for clusters of these continuous flirting gestures, a few hair tosses and some fidgeting (a sign of sexual tension) in repetition and not misunderstood the signals. If she has clearly displayed using these nonverbal pickup techniques, you should know how to end the deal. Approached her, say something natural and sincere but not those lacklustre pick up lines that she feels you’ll use on anyone, which filled with dishonesty and unimaginative.

And if you want to compliment her, it’s better with comments that reveal something specific about her physical attributes e.g., distinct eye colour or a unique necklace and not her character trail yet. Your icebreaker should make her feel good. If not, gesture for her to come on over using an enticing invitational wave of the fingers over the crowd. If there’s a clear path for her to come over, take a few steps in her direction and, with a smiling face, show her it’s her turn.

At the end of the day, it may be just the beginning. In order to have a successful night, you will still have to play your other cards right. Things like reading her body languages and engaging her in a good conversation are also essential to make sure you won’t be going back alone.