My girlfriend told me that I don’t have to give her a gift for her next birthday or Valentine day. I almost fall for it! So when I asked her what gift she would like to have for Valentine or her birthday, she basically just say, “Oh whatever, you feel like getting, honey.”

My words of advice: Don’t believe her!

If you value the relationship you have with her, you should really spend some effort and thought on this. She expects you to give her a nice gift anyway, and she’ll be extremely upset if you take her words at face value. So why would she say one thing and mean exactly the opposite?

Why Women Never Meant What They Says?

The reason is because certain things in life have value only if they’re given unreservedly. They lose their value if they’re given under pressure, or out of obligation. Take Love as a good example. How valuable would it be if you could get a woman to tell you that she loves you only by you pointing at knife at her neck?

Gifts are another such concept when women are concerned. If you’re giving her gift only because you’re theoretical supposed to, well it’s not worth much. But if you give her gift even when you don’t have to, you’re entering another stage and you maybe only few steps away from becoming a new age Prince Charming.

Why Are Gifts So Important To Women?

You have to understand that gifts are important to women mainly because of their symbolic value. After all, most women have the money to buy themselves the things they really want and they are actually very enthusiastic about their financial ability. Women can buy tons of stuff for themselves, without any special occasion required and they don’t need men to give them things they want to have. So gifts for women from men are special not for their inherent value but for the emblematic message that they send instead.

Why Didn’t Women Likes The Gifts I Give Her?

You may have heard of the phrase, “Well, it’s the thought that counts.”
But most of us completely misinterpret it. We assume it means that as long as we remembered to get her a gift, and any gifts, we’re safe and everything is alright. The truth is you get acclamation not for the mere presence of thought but for the measure of thought and effort that went in the getting the specific gift for her. The cost of the gift is relatively unimportant to a woman. Why? Because women believe that men always have lots of money so it’s “easy” for us to just whip out the MasterCard and be done as a Santa Claus.

To a woman, that type of gift giving is seen as hassle free and effortless. Therefore it’s largely worthless as a symbol of the love and her lovability. On the other hand, it’s quite possible to give a woman a gift that cost you nothing but took you considerate time and effort that she’ll value far more than anything that you have purchased for her at any price.
Why? Because women love to compare and bragged against other women, our effort and thought are invaluable when it come to showing off.

Why Women Not Always Loves Money?

Try giving your girlfriend of wife a check or cash like $1, 000 or even $2, 000. She’ll be affronted. Why? It’s not because she doesn’t like to shop or money, it the way of the symbolism. She will perceived you as being as unbothered to make an effort to pick something for her and trying to take the easy way out. You don’t consider her to be special and you simply don’t care or she doesn’t matter to you at all.

The worse is her female friend will impale her for not being able to attract a better man. She will in turn share her discomfort to the fullest extent possible with you. And that means- “Headaches at bedtime.”

Why Isn’t Woman Telling Me What Gift She Likes?

Bear in mind that you’ll be graded on both thought and the effort you make. So if she tells you exactly what she wants, that means you won’t have to put any thought into it. She has done all the work for you. So it’s extremely rare for a woman to come out and tell you what she wants or like.

Women instead handle this divergence by dropping hints. If you pick up these hints, this means that you pay attention to her needs and therefore is a good husband material. And if you take the hints well, this allows her to avoid seeming demanding. She can tell herself that she didn’t ask for anything and that you just decided on your own that you wanted to give those nice things to her and importantly a much more pleasant finish to her.

What Are The Hints And Clues Women Leave Behind?

So let’s examine some of the hints here:

• The most common method is when the two of you are at a mall. Both of you passed a window display, e.g. a jewelry store, and she paused to take a quick look. If she looks at a particular item and comment something like, “Wow, what a nice ____,” that’s a hint.

• The same pattern occurs when she is looking through a magazine and sees something in an advertisement. If she shows it to you and mentions that it “looks cool,” that’s also a hint.

• Or perhaps the two of you will be out somewhere and she’ll point out an item that another woman has and make a favorable comment about it. Alright, you guessed it correct, she’s hinting again.

So how do you get on from here when you have collected all the hints and clues? The effort you make is critical to determine the value of your gift.Don’t play down your thoughts and effort when your woman compliments you on a gift you gave her or a deed you did for her.

Just reply, “You’re definitely worth it!” or “No effort is too great for the right woman!” If you downplay its value, she will too. Or you might even do the opposite and actually overplay the amount of effort that went into a gift. Exaggerate your efforts than it really did and let her continue to play on her misimpression if she mistakenly assumes it.

Stay tuned for next part and I will explore with you understanding the aspect of good and bad gifts for a woman.