Staying in a relationship that isn’t working is already hard enough, so can you imagine how it would be when you decided to end it off. Breaking up usually hurts both parties, but only one has the guts to say it.

While some relationship only has one winner after a breakup, there no grand prizes to be awarded.

What you should do to maintain that calm composure during breakup and how to minimize the after effects of the breakup? Here are some tips that will help you.

It’s time to get the relation-shit out of your relationship.”

How to get out of the Relation-Shit

• Get it over with
  The longer that you stay with them, the more miserable you are going to be. In the end, it does not matter if you hurt their feelings. It is better for you to tell them now that you want to break up rather than wait until later. Breaking it off immediately will be doing the both of you a big favor by allowing each of you to get on with your lives right away instead of wasting more of your precious time.
• Be straightforward
  Don’t beat around the bushes. Your partner may get the wrong message and think that you are trying to say something else. Tell them bluntly that it is over and let there be no questions asked. But you don’t need to be rude or mean about it, just let them know that it’s just over and there no turning back.
• Finish up all you want to say
  If there is anything that you need to say, go ahead and tell it all. Get your closure in before it is too late. Make sure that you tell them that it is over, and if there is a reason you would like to state, and then state the reason. One of the worst feelings in the world is leaving a relationship and still having things that you wanted to say to that person. Without proper closure, the feelings that were in that relationship can linger on for years and years. You want to get them completely out of your system now. Be civil, but be honest.
• Do not break up by phone, text or email
  It’s a cowardly act and disrespect to the other party. It’s simply shows how your mindset in a relationship. This isn’t a game so grab the courage to arrange to meet up with them and face them in person.
• Keep each other information private
  When both of you’re in a relationship, you shared information about each of your personal life, family, secrets and many more. However, when the relationship blown off, do not go around telling everyone or badmouthing your ex about the private life of your ex partner. By avoiding that, you will be seen as mature
• Avoid sending wrong signals
  After the relationship has ended, don’t keep emailing them regularly, texting them daily, or calling them whenever you feel like it. This will send your ex a contrary signals and give them a glimpse of hope. If this is not the message you want to send, be very clear in your words and also your actions following the break up.
• Do not keep it to yourself
  Involve your friends and family. Talk to them about how you are feeling, especially if you begin to feel depressed or it is affecting your daily life.
• Do not take revenge
  If you want to maintain a healthy friendship with your ex partner in the future, do not start dating their best friend straight after you have broken up or doing thing just to revenge on your ex. It’s not worth it and you will be seen as immature and rancorous.
• Avoid entering into a relationship too soon
  Take sometimes to enjoy singlehood and do things that you will love doing alone. Learn from past relationship failure before settling into a new relationship again.
• Focus on the positive
  If you only concentrate on the negative, you will become bitter and angry at either yourself or the other person. Don’t hold onto anger, hurt or pain. Let them go and forget about it. Move on in life and you will be happier.

It Finally Over

No one likes a break up. But it is sometimes the best solution for both individuals. You never know, you may be the only one who will attempt to end it. The other person may be too scared to end it while knowing that it is over as well. Although you may or may not end up hurting your soon to be ex-partner, in the end, you both will be very glad that you did it.

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